You know that I'm only going to encourage you to confront her when she's acting like an ass. The thing is, though confrontation is hard, it doesn't have to mean acting like an asshole yourself. And it totally gets you out of the avoid-avoid-make-an-excuse discomfort you're now feeling.
This one's tough... as much as you'd like to be an ass and say enough, get out of my life, you can't. You'd feel like crap. So if you were friends with someone who just wasn't that into you, you know you wouldn't want to force your friendship onto someone that didn't appreciate you, so how would you want to be told to leave that person alone? (is that too confusing?) You'd probably want to be told that "Hey you're a nice person, but I just don't really feel that close to you even though we've hung out a few times. I'm really busy and true friends are important to me, so I really feel that with the small amount of time I have to spend with people I need to spend it with them, not you. Sorry." Or something like that. Not mean, not sarcastic, but she'll definately get the hint, and yes, she'll probably be mad, but you'll know that you did it in the kindest way possible. Good Luck!
I want a big placard sign. It will say. "I don't want to talk to you anymore. Get it?"
ReplyDeleteI'll just hold that up when the beasts "pop by"--she sounds AWFUL.
There's a drug that will both allow you to act like an ass and be full of remorse afterward. Maybe you've heard of it? It's called alcohol. ;)
ReplyDeleteYou know that I'm only going to encourage you to confront her when she's acting like an ass. The thing is, though confrontation is hard, it doesn't have to mean acting like an asshole yourself. And it totally gets you out of the avoid-avoid-make-an-excuse discomfort you're now feeling.
ReplyDeleteThis one's tough... as much as you'd like to be an ass and say enough, get out of my life, you can't. You'd feel like crap. So if you were friends with someone who just wasn't that into you, you know you wouldn't want to force your friendship onto someone that didn't appreciate you, so how would you want to be told to leave that person alone? (is that too confusing?) You'd probably want to be told that "Hey you're a nice person, but I just don't really feel that close to you even though we've hung out a few times. I'm really busy and true friends are important to me, so I really feel that with the small amount of time I have to spend with people I need to spend it with them, not you. Sorry." Or something like that. Not mean, not sarcastic, but she'll definately get the hint, and yes, she'll probably be mad, but you'll know that you did it in the kindest way possible. Good Luck!
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It's a tough one for sure, but I'd continue with the avoidence and maybe she'll get the hint that really you don't want to talk to her. Ever.
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